A love note to my fellow overachievers

 

 

Dearest Achiever,

You are, without a doubt, a modern day Wonder Woman.

You are mission driven and wildly successful in everything that you do. There is nothing you can’t tackle. When you set a goal, you not only achieve it, you demolish it.

 

And yet you often think to yourself: “If I could just do a little bit more and achieve the next thing, then I would be happy”.

What is success to you if it feels like you are always chasing the next summit on the mountain just to conquer it and find a new one, without ever stopping to take in the view or celebrate your accomplishment?

 

Regardless of how high you set the bar for yourself, that sense of accomplishment is ever fleeting. It never feels like enough. You can always do better, right? You can always be more, right?
I know you’re tired.  I know it seems like the struggle is never ending. And I would give anything to be able to shield you from all this pain and suffering.

But please, trust me when I say this: You will get through this. It gets better.

 

I know this because I know you.

 

You’re driven, capable, fiercely motivated and at times stubborn, and while I get that you feel hopeless, I also know that there is still a part of you that refuses to give up.
Embrace that part, my love.

 

This is the part of you that I want you to hold on to. I need you to believe in yourself and trust that you have all the answers you seek.  Love yourself enough to create space for self-exploration; it’s deep, and sometimes difficult work, but it is so worth it. All that other stuff? The clothes, the men, the job, the nice apartment and the flat stomach – it’s distracting you from the truth.

And the truth is: the things you desire are not out there. The answers you seek are WITHIN you.

You’ve tried it all, the diets, the fitness regimens, the doctors, the supplements, the cleanses and yet nothing has worked.  It’s because these are all just band aids covering up a bigger wound. You’re treating the symptoms, now it’s time to treat the cause. It can’t hurt to try, right?

Because here’s the thing, the key to health, happiness, and success in any area of life has very little to do with the amount of kale you eat, green smoothies you drink, self-help books you read or the number of miles you run on the treadmill.

 

On the contrary, it has everything to do with the thoughts you think.

How do I know all of this? Who am I to be so presumptuous, you may be wondering?

I was you.

It took me 5 years, a debilitating skin condition and almost $30,000 (yes, I totaled it up) trying to “fix” myself, to find that external something that would solve all my problems before I realized that everything I was doing was simply treating a symptom of a bigger issue, which was that I didn’t love or fundamentally accept myself.

Every choice I made in my life was coming from a place of fear, rather than love.

So, I want you to think about that thing in your life that is constantly plaguing you, looming over you like a big, black cloud.  That thing you’re struggling with, that is keeping you stuck, unhappy and forever chasing a never ending moving target.
If you can take one learning from my pain, my suffering and my experience, let it be this: the first and sometimes only step you need to find the success, happiness and fulfillment you seek begins with first loving yourself.

 

You can exhaust yourself trying to change your external circumstances to achieve some external results.  But at the end of the day, if you don’t go within, you go without. Which is why I created this resource to help you make self-love a choice rather than an afterthought in your life.

You’ve spent so long pushing down your thoughts, feelings and desires, no wonder your body is taking such drastic measures to get you to sit up and pay attention. I know it’s a tough lesson, but what you’ll learn through the process will not only transform your life but also the lives of those around you. Heed the message and persevere.  Think of it as your very own permission slip to be unapologetically you and to put you first.

I think you’re ready, gorgeous.  Be brave, dig deep and most of all, be kind to yourself. You are so much stronger than you think.

It’s time to feed your soul.

 

With love,

Samantha